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thesolaceflow

✨Athlete-turned-therapist
šŸ¤ Helping athletes, retired athletes, & high achievers
šŸ“Virtual sessions in BC & OntariošŸ‡ØšŸ‡¦
šŸ‘‡šŸ¼Accepting new clients

šŸ’Œ a few reminders for those of you who are feeling šŸ’Œ a few reminders for those of you who are feeling on the edge or burnout or completely burnt out šŸ¤Ž

warmly, 

Shai šŸ¤—

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🌼 currently waitlisting (on maternity leave with an expected return sometime in October) please email me at shailyn@thesolaceflow.com with the email subject ā€œnew clientā€ and I will reach out to you when I return to office. Must be located in British Columbia or Ontario Canada.

#burnoutprevention #burnoutrecovery #perfectionismrecovery #perfectionismsucks #athletementalhealth
life lately - maternity leave edition šŸ¤ life lately - maternity leave edition šŸ¤
Motherhood has been one of the greatest mirrors fo Motherhood has been one of the greatest mirrors for my perfectionism.

It has shown me how often I measured a ā€œgood dayā€ by what I accomplished instead of how I showed up.

As a therapist, I can recognize the voice of perfectionism and I help many clients work through their perfectionism. But becoming a mom has reminded me that recognizing it and living through it are two very different things.

If you have ever ended the day feeling like you didn’t do enough this post is for you.

Maybe your work wasn’t visible.
Maybe it wasn’t something you could check off a list.
Maybe it looked like caring for a child, showing up for a loved one, resting when your body needed it, or simply making it through a really hard day.

That still counts.

Perfectionism has a way of convincing us that our value comes from producing, achieving, and doing more.

But what if we’ve been measuring our days with the wrong ruler all along?

šŸ¤Ž Follow @thesolaceflow for more content! 

šŸ‘‰šŸ¼ Currently not accepting new clients due to being on maternity leave. If you are wanting to start therapy with me, please send me an email (email: shailyn@thesolaceflow.com) with the headline ā€œnew clientā€ and I will reach out to you in October when I return from maternity leave.
You guyssssssss we had a baby boy 🄹🄹🄹🩵🩵🩵 There ar You guyssssssss we had a baby boy 🄹🄹🄹🩵🩵🩵

There aren’t quite enough words to describe how much our hearts have changed.

Our sweet baby boy is here, and our world feels completely different in the most beautiful way 🩵 Every tiny yawn, sleepy cuddle, and little stretch has reminded us to slow down and cherish the moments that matter most. Truly have been soaking it all in 🄹🄹 I could just stare at him all day (and I have been šŸ˜‚). 

Welcome to the world, our sweet little boy. You are so so so deeply loved 🩵
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This weekend I celebrated two years of The Solace This weekend I celebrated two years of The Solace Flow šŸ„¹šŸ«¢šŸ¤—šŸ„° how is this real!!

I think about the version of me who held this dream quietly before it existed, the fear, the doubt, the people who told me not to do it. But my ā€œwhyā€ felt bigger than the fear, so I did it scared. 

And somehow, this idea became a community. A practice. A space that has now supported so many humans through different stages of life and many different challenges. 

To every client who trusted me with their story, thank you. There are truly no words that feel big enough for the honour of being invited into people’s lives the way I have been. 

To this Instagram community - thank you for growing with me, engaging with my posts, and allowing me to show up as a real human on this platform. What started as simply wanting to help people feel less alone has grown into something I could have never imagined.

This year also challenged me to soften some of my own perfectionism.

There were moments where I caught myself focused on the things I didn’t accomplish yet: the course not fully launched, the email marketing not where I imagined, all the timelines shifting. But this year also held something incredibly sacred: growing a baby.

And while some goals are moving slower than expected, they never stopped mattering to me. I’ve continued working behind the scenes on courses, ideas, & content that I truly want to feel meaningful and deeply supportive rather than rushed. 

I’ve reminded myself that growth is not only measured in productivity or numbers. This next year may look different because of maternity leave, but it is still growth. Building a family is one of the most important things I will ever do in my life.

As I move into year 3ļøāƒ£, I don’t fully know what this next chapter will hold yet. But I do know that there are dreams continuing to grow alongside me. I plan to grow & launch the courses that have been in the works, have live workshops, grow the blog/email side of things, & return to sharing meaningful and authentic content here.

It has always been about authenticity & connection on this page & in my practice, never perfectionšŸ¤Ž

Thank you for being here 🄹

Shai šŸ¤—
You guysssssssss, I’m pregnantttttt šŸ„¹šŸ„°šŸ˜ŠšŸ¤— This has You guysssssssss, I’m pregnantttttt šŸ„¹šŸ„°šŸ˜ŠšŸ¤—

This has truly been the hardest secret to keep. 🫢 

I wanted to inform all of my clients first, as this news directly impacts them, before sharing it with this wonderful online community we’ve built here. Even while I’m on maternity leave, I still plan to remain present on this page because this space and this community means so much to me.

If you are a client and this news feels shocking to you, it probably just means we haven’t connected in a little while. Please don’t hesitate to reach out with any questions, concerns, thoughts, or feelings, I will always happily chat with you.

Thank you all for understanding that I’ve been a little MIA lately. Life has looked very different over the past seven months in the most beautiful and transformative way possible. My psychological thriller/romantic reading obsession has slowly been replaced with books about fertility, pregnancy, birth, breast-feeding, postpartum, and nervous system regulation. My movement has shifted into slower, workouts, walks, stretching, and listening much more deeply to my body. My weekends have been filled with conversations about baby names, nursery planning, baby shower prep, and soaking in this entirely new season of life.

As a therapist, this experience has also deepened my connection to the work I do every single day. It has been such a powerful reminder of the mind-body connection, the importance of nourishment, rest, movement, support, self compassion, and how deeply our emotional and physical worlds are intertwined. Experiencing such significant change within my own body has expanded my empathy and understanding in ways I honestly don’t even have words for yet, but I’m excited to share when I do.

To say we are grateful feels like an understatementšŸ„¹šŸ¤Ž

I’ll be making another post soon sharing what maternity leave will look like moving forward and what you can expect from me while I’m away. But for now, I just really wanted to share this part of my heart and life with you all.

Thank you for being here through all the seasonsšŸ¤Ž 

- Shai
ā˜ļø a topic that has come up a lot in sessions rece ā˜ļø a topic that has come up a lot in sessions recently 

šŸ‘‰šŸ¼ swipe through to learn about movement being helpful for individuals who have ADHD 

šŸ¤Ž follow @thesolaceflow for more mental health content geared towards high achievers, athletes, and retired athletes 

Warmly,

Shai

#adhd #adhdbrain #retiredathlete #athletementalhealth #highachiever
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Eating Disorders vs. Disordered Eating
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Eating Disorders vs. Disordered Eating

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Dive into the athlete's guide: Understanding Eating Disorders vs. Disordered Eating. Recognize signs, seek expert help, and thrive! Written from a therapist.

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Pre/Post Game: Mental Health & Nutrition

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Unlock peak performance with expert insights! Explore mental health techniques and nutrition strategies for athletes from a therapist and dietitian duo!

Retiring Athletes Face Identity Loss
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Retiring Athletes Face Identity Loss

January 21, 2024by The Solace Flow

Explore the emotional journey of retiring athletes with therapist Shailyn Waites. Learn how counselling can be a guiding light through identity loss.

The Benefits of In-Sport Counselling
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The Benefits of In-Sport Counselling

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A therapist and former university athlete, explores how counselling can help athletes navigate pressures, and proactively address mental health challenges.

The Power of Post-Sport Counselling
Athletics

The Power of Post-Sport Counselling

January 7, 2024by The Solace Flow

A therapist discusses the benefits of post-sport counselling as athletes face identity loss, mental health concerns, and developing overall wellbeing.

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